Q:Um so I'm eleven right now about twelve and I think I am asexual and I've thought about it a lot cause when I was younger I had sexual attraction towards people now I don't at all I mean I still have a romantic attraction towards two people I know the first being one of my best friends and the second being a kid I met and felt a friend attraction towards but it slowly progressed to a romantic attraction. So my question is am I too young to think about this and I'm almost done with all the 1/2
2/2 puberty part but is it bad I’ve identified myself this early? Cause I would call myself hetromantic (sp) and asexual cause well where I live we all have sexual attraction towards people but I don’t and I’m a early bloomer. ~Hannah
Hi Hannah :] I make it a point to never tell someone that they’re too young to start trying to figure themselves out! I think it’s an important thing to think about, and shows a remarkable amount of self-awareness, especially in young people. Which is amazing!
I wouldn’t say it’s ‘bad’ to identify yourself. Ever. A lot of people get a lot of satisfaction out of understanding themselves. And you might find that you grow and change over time, or you might not. But being able to put who you are into words (like ‘heteroromantic’) is a really empowering thing. It’s a confidence booster! It lets you communicate to other people how you feel and how you experience things. It also helps them to understand you, as you are right now! Regardless of whether or not you change in the future!
So basically, no, I don’t think you’re too young to think about this. And No I don’t think it’s bad that you’ve chosen to identify yourself as asexual! I think its great that you’re thinking so much about this!
Just remember, labels don’t always fit us perfectly. They’re just tools we use when we talk to others about our personal experiences! Don’t worry about finding one that fits perfectly, you don’t even have to use one at all if you don’t want to! But if you do, don’t force yourself into a box, and don’t be scared to change the label later if you decide it’s not as perfect for you as you thought! But on the other hand, also don’t be scared to stand up for the label you’re using now. You know you the best, don’t let anyone else tell you what you are :]